It seems you always want the things you can’t or don’t have. The ones who give you the least attention, time and energy. The ideas that love you back the least.
In terms of people, I’ve been on both sides of the coin as the ‘wanted’ and the one ‘wanting’, often simultaneously, so the irony isn’t lost on me. It’s a case of crying over the spilt milk right in front of you, while you’re in another corner pouring a perfectly good carton down the drain.
Is this simply a case of generalized low self-esteem as a society? Are we inherently attracted to the people, ideas and things that we think (or are made to feel) we cannot attain? Why IS the grass always seemingly greener on the other side? Are we selfish and ungrateful, or is it simply imprinted in our DNA as a means to survive?
Survival of the fittest.
On the other hand, maybe this is a very necessary affliction that pushes us to be better, do better, to keep climbing, dreaming, trying. That pushes us not to settle or get too comfortable—because prolonged comfort is how you get eaten in the wild.
To me, I think it comes down to being able to differentiate between Wanting More For Your Greater Good, and Running Away/Blindly Chasing What Doesn’t Exist. As for HOW to differentiate where that fine line is drawn, I haven’t quite figured that out yet.
In the mean time, practicing gratitude is always a safe choice. Letting things come and go, ebb and flow without expectation. Proactively working on your happiness and trying new things, because it is often in the New where we discover who we are; whether that is realizing who we STILL are, recognizing who we were, or figuring out who we want to be.
“The grass is greener where you water it.” – Neil Barringham
Model: Michelle Tomaszewski (Charles Stuart International)
Brand(s): Adidas Women’s Superstar Track Jacket; Adidas Women’s Techfit Sports Bra.
Photography & Retouching: Carly T. (@sundaylovexo)